How Do You Know You’re In Love?

My ever stylish friend asked me, ” Hey, when did you fall in love?

It took me by surprise especially since I only just arrived and barely warmed my seat.

I paused for a bit, pondering.

He explained that it was for a research he’s doing. He was told to write about love and he felt it only made sense to ask his friends of all ages since he never fell in love before.

I actually found that rather hard to believe but hey who am I to question.

My past came flooding through my head as I searched for that moment when I knew I was in love. The high school crush, the boy in college, the first boy who broke my heart, the one who was perfect but at last distance was not on our side, the bad boy who offered me a lollipop because he couldn’t bear to see me cry, the one who wanted to protect me from harm, the one who gave his everything and so on and so forth.

So I dated all sort and had a few relationships but it was hard to answer the question.

Noticing my silence, he rephrased the question and asked instead, ” How did you know you were struck by Cupid?”

I can’t just tell him,”you know it because you do”, nor can I say, “it’s a feeling”. It’s too simple and love is anything but simple.

Love is an explosion, fireworks, your heart racing, couple of sleepless nights, giggly moments, laughter, passion, emotions, movements, smiles, warm, fuzzy, missing the other like crazy, being silly and lots of fun.

In the end I told him that I was introduced to love at different stages in my life. The first was during my Ministry years when there was an immediate attraction, this connection and draw to the other person and some unexplainable magic and chemistry that permitted two individuals to share not one but a few dreams together.

The second, when I felt like a giggly lovesick puppy, terribly bashful and when I heard myself saying, “He existed after all”.

After all that, I paused again. It wasn’t even hard to describe it. Only one word. One word to describe how one knows when they are in love.

That word is, “Alive”.

You know you’re in love when you feel alive and I said that with a dreamy face and a smile on my lips.

Immediately he got excited and said he knew how to write his piece and had enough juices to get him going to end it well too.

After my Birkin loving friend and I went our separate ways, I started reflecting and all the boys and men came into my head. Indeed I’ve been lucky. Very lucky as a matter of fact to have them love me while I only returned a few.

I told 2 important men in my past how much they meant to me still and how love will always be there, though no longer the same.

I told my present guy that among all people to set us up, it had to be the girl with the big heart, Nina, and of course her dear friend, Tia too, who was supportive about the whole thing from the start. If anything, I’m very glad they did because it was a huge blessing and I did say “yes” after all.

Third quarter was it D?

2012

It’s the 2012!

Good God!

2011 was a year of tears, laughter, heart aches, understanding, growing, second chances, new found love and many more.

I left my job as a diplomat to become a business woman. I closed a few chapters and began a new one with someone else. I battled through a lot of obstacles and though I didn’t win all, I still came out fine.

All in all, it was an eventful one and a year to remember =)