To Judge

A good reminder for everyone, including myself;

” Judging a person does not define who they are. It defines who YOU are”.

Like D said, nobody changes who they are, they just evolve. Judging someone is only natural but in the future, if you ever do judge, think first before saying anything only because you feel like it. You may end up hurting someone but you will only end up hurting yourself more. Directly and indirectly.

Chances

Chances.Opportunities.

At some point in our live, we either give or were given the above to make a change, to do things differently, to give or be given the benefit of the doubt.

Of course, chances and opportunities do have an expiry date too. But just because it expired with one person, it doesn’t mean that chances and opportunities can’t be given by others.

Personally, the only one I believe who will never give up on you is the man up there. I am not religious but its true. If you don’t believe in God, well let’s just say then that life is pretty fair and understanding as long as you’re grateful.

We make mistakes. We sin. We are not perfect. We regret. We learn. Hence we can still make changes in our life but more importantly, to be given the chance , the support and assistance, the understanding needed to make that change.

No one is perfect. People will always do something for a reason. Instead of jumping on them, be human, use that rationality of yours, and give them the benefit of the doubt. Everybody wants answers and the only way to get it…….well, don’t “kill” the person first otherwise the answer will never come.

Known

Those who know me well will know that I am one who isn’t comfortable with any form of lime light.

Sure I am privileged but I prefer to have to low profile life than the glamorous lifestyle where one is featured in magazines etc.

Now some of you may say “bah humbug” and roll your eyes but I ain’t kidding.

I am one who’s more comfortable taking pictures with friends when we are out on trips but the minute someone tells me to “pose for the camera now”…. I go “eek”. I tried to avoid having my pictures taken recently for some media but at last, I did not succeed. However, I am thankful that it wasn’t my face on the paper recently but one of my girls.

If you were to ask why wouldn’t I want any form of publicity, why wouldn’t I want to have my face on some magazine, well honestly, I don’t hate it but I feel extremely exposed. Recently an offer was made and sure I was dumbfounded, pleasantly surprised, but that “eek” came out too. It would be silly to turn it down and say no especially since the business will need the exposure so I agreed to it. Whether it would materialise is now another matter. If anything, what sunk it after that offer was that I would have more of “these” coming my way.

Ever since that day, I asked myself if I will ever be ready for that sort of attention, exposure, the camera, the talks, the interviews…..I really don’t know. I don’t think I’ll ever be ready but when the time comes for me to cross that bridge, I will have to cross it, preparing myself for a surprised attack by trolls just in case.

 

Summary

*BREATHES IN*……

I started another FB page, had a two day media workshop, CURRENTLY preparing for IFF, lost it with the Dragon Lady, trying to sort the office matter out due to some reshuffling, trying to juggle friends, love life and work, handling the flagship and staffs emotional well being, doing my best to ensure that payment is made without further delay, trying to deliver what needs to be delivered, constantly following up on adverts etc ……….

I swear I’m stretched….from work…….and my mother especially!

Can I say….I QUIT?!

Stage 2

Stage 2 can only mean Stage 3 after this.

After Stage 1, Stage 2 came really quickly too all thanks to the Dragon Master. Of course, since he wanted to be spared the lashing of the tongue, he decided to tell a different tale to the Dragon Lady by saying that he was ambushed and it was only right to be polite. *Shakes head*. Typical father but then again, I knew he would do exactly that.

So Dragon Lady ain’t very please but I’m sure she will come around to it.

Dragon Master couldn’t help but tease me and gave a little wink and smile when the Dragon Lady ain’t looking.

Great..

My father….

Playing the dual role…

Who would have thought…..

So anyway, Dragon Lady was making it an issue and I told her, “Ma, focus…..you have a son to think about and a daughter who’s all the way in London, I am like the least of your worries….also…there’s no issue here so why create ONE?“.

Yes, I did say that and don’t worry, I smiled. I even laughed after and she kept mum while my dad maintained his twinkling eye and smile the whole time.

Ah parents.

What happens next?

I don’t know but it will work out..

Stage 1 – DONE!

You know how you plan your day ahead, envisioning everything to fall into place perfectly, believing that it will? Well it did!

A while ago, I told the Dragon Master that a certain beau was interested in making a courtesy call and the Dragon Master laughed.

We talked about it on and off and one day out of the blue, he said he was willing to meet the poor fella. However, the dates he proposed were not possible because I was away for work.

Upon my return, the poor beau and I were talking about Stage 1 once again and I agreed with him, we needed it done and out of the way. The sooner the better.

I woke up today, visualizing how my day was going to be and the meeting between the Dragon Master and the fella was also a part of it.

Well it happened.

It was a little awkward at first but it ended pretty well with the Dragon Master telling him to take care of me and don’t send me home too late.

If there’s anything I am grateful for today, I am especially grateful that my father was a good enough sport!

Now…..stage 2!

The Goblin in Central Park New York

All I needed to do was to ask if I could go to his to collect my stuff.

Who knew that I only needed to ask that question to get the ball rolling between us.

He called and said, “Hey Stranger”. Honestly, it was good to hear that familiar voice.

We shared stories, talked about the past and future, the possibilities and our current state.

If anything, the Goblin weaved up a good tale for this Faerie and it wasn’t short of any twinkling of the stars or enchantment. New York certainly didn’t change anything between us.

“Goblin keeps searching around and under the bridges in Central Park for any sign of that particular Faerie“….

It was good hearing from you again Goblin =)